But thanks be to God, who gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ. – 1 Corinthians 15:57 (NIV)
Do you feel constantly hurt by other people’s words and actions? Does it feel as though they are pouring salt in an open wound? Victimization is a very real and painful occurrence. Many times it involves an act where someone who is totally innocent is violated in some way. One person suffers because of the negligence of another.
Even though victimization is very detrimental and you feel that you have every right to be upset, bitter and even revengeful, it is important to let go and let God as quickly as possible. If you let the pain linger without working through the forgiveness process, you could very easily develop a victim mentality.
If you are not careful, a victim mentality can result in devaluing yourself to the point where you tend to gravitate toward perpetrators. Better yet, you start to view everyone as a perpetrator. You may think…why is everybody always picking on me? This is an emotionally dangerous mindset because you start to view everyone’s actions in relation to how it negatively affects you. In that sense, you have a hard time accepting the fact that that person is probably not even aware that his actions are affecting you; he is simply living his life.
Lord, I understand that tests in life can either make me bitter or better and problems can either make me or break me. I am grateful for the opportunity to choose put the victimization behind me in order to be a victor in Christ.