And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart. – Ecclesiastes 4:12 (NASB)
Are you experiencing relationship problems? If and when you do it is time to check the cord. Does the cord entail just the two of you who are in relationship together? Every relationship, not just in marriage, should contain the third and most powerful strand. As seen in Ecclesiastes 4:12, without the third strand the relationship can be quickly torn apart.
At times we start out with the best intentions whereas we have the third strand firmly in place. For some reason, possibly due to a busy schedule, we slowly allow that strand to slip out of the bond that holds us together. Even relationships that appear strong on the surface will eventually experience great difficulty without Jesus in the center. Figuratively speaking, that third strand is the backbone that holds the two weaker strands in place.
Without the third strand of Jesus firmly in place, we tend to act out in two extremes. One, we engage in doing additional things to please that person in order to keep the strands connected. Or two, we act out in rebellion because they are not doing “what they used to do” in order to hold things together. With Jesus in place we have the ability to take a proactive approach in the relationship by interacting with that person solely on the direction of Christ, not reacting to their every move.
Lord, today I choose to renew my commitment to You by reinstating You to Your proper place as the strong strand in every relationship cord that I am a part of. In doing so, I can refrain from the extremes of people pleasing or responding in rebellion to their actions.